Punjabi Weddings are characterized by their boisterous
celebrations that are a reflection of their exuberance
towards life in general. Punjabi weddings are solemnized
late in the night and involve all nightlong dancing-
an aspect that is now increasingly been incorporated
in the weddings of other communities as well. The different
types of Punjabi Marriage rituals are listed below:
PRE WEDDING PUNJABI RITUALS
The Roka ceremony is the informal agreement between
the families of the bride and the groom. Usually conducted
at the girl's house, it involves a small puja and exchange
of gifts between the families.
Mangni, Sagaai, or Kudmai
This ritual marks the ring ceremony in according to
the Punjabi ritual and marks the formal 'asking' of
the bride's hand in marriage by the groom's family.
Both the bride and the groom receive lots of gifts from
their in-laws during the occasion of their engagement.
Sagan and chunni chadana
On this occasion, the bride is presented a red chunni
by her sister/sister-in-law of her future husband and
is fed boiled rice and milk by her future mother-in-law.
A havan is also conducted to observe these rituals.
Also a tika ceremony is held in the honor of the bridegroom.
Sangeet ceremonies are fun filled occasion and a time
for singing and dancing to the beats of dholak and tunes
of latest pop music. The sangeet is often combined with
a cocktail party.
The Mehendi function pertains to the decoration of the
bride's hand by the henna that has been sent over by
her future mother-in-law. An excuse for more merry-making,
there is lot of music and dance during the mehendi function
along with delicious snacks.
A couple of days prior to the wedding, Vatna, a scented
powder consisting of barley flour, turmeric, and mustard
oil is applied to the bodies of both the bride and the
groom-to-be and is followed by a ritual bath. It is
believed that the application of the Vatna purifies
The chuda ceremony is supposed to be conducted by the
maternal uncle, who helps the bride put on the set of
a red and cream ivory bangles known as Chuda. A havan
is performed by a priest to mark this occasion. The
priest also places an iron bangle with shells and beads
along with a mauli on the girl's priest. Flower petals
are showered on the girl after the ceremony and prasad
is distributed among all.
WEDDING DAY PUNJABI RITUALS
Conducted early on the morning of the wedding day itself,
the Ghara Ghardoli ritual involves the groom's sister-in-law
along with other female relatives going to a nearby
well or Gurudwara to fill up a earthern pitcher with
water that the groom will use during his bath.
The Sehrabandi takes place as the groom is getting ready
to leave for the marriage venue. The crown or the turban
he is supposed to wear is blessed by the elders and
he is given cash gifts
Ghodi, vag goodti and duppata
The groom's bhabi lines his eyes with surma (kohl).
After this, the groom's sisters and cousins feed and
decorate his mare. His relatives use cash for the varna,
a ceremony that is supposed to ward off the evil eye
where cash is given away to the poor.
As the barat procession reaches the wedding venue, they
are greeted at the door by the bride's family who garland
the groom and his close relatives. Then they present
shagun or gifts to the all the groom's relatives.
It refers to the exchange of the garlands by the bride
and the groom
THE PUNJABI WEDDING
The Punjabi wedding ceremony generally takes place late
in the evening, after dinner. As the auspicious time
for the marriage comes near, a puja is performed for
the groom by the priest. Then as the bride is escorted
to the wedding mandap, the priest performs another puja
with the couple and their respective parents. This is
followed by the kanyadan ceremony where the father gives
away his daughter to the groom. Next ritual is the pheras
where the couple encircles the ceremonial fire seven
times. This concludes the marriage ceremony after which
couple receives blessings from all their elders.
POST WEDDING PUNJABI RITUALS
As the name suggest, the ritual of Vidaai marks the
departure of the bride from her parental place, which
is marked by her throwing puffed rice over her head.
Her relatives throw coins in the wake of this procession.
Reception at the boy's house
The newly weds are welcomed in a ceremony called the
pani bharna. Then the bride must, with her right foot,
kick the sarson ka tel (mustard oil) that is put on
the sides of the entrance door before she enters the
house. Then, along with her husband, she must offer
puja in their room. Then they must touch the feet of
the elders in a ceremony called matha tekna. The rest
of the evening is spent in playing enjoyable traditional
This ritual marks the visit of the newly weds to the
bride's house a day after the wedding and usually the
girl's brother fetches the couple.
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